Mary Virginia King
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DOVER- Mary Virginia (McDermott) King died at home on Monday, July 29, She was born in New York City, on December 23, 1923, to Michael and Mary (Burke) McDermott.

Mrs. King was predeceased by husband, Donald, formerly of West Dover. She is survived by her daughter, Judy, son-in-law, Fred Casey, and granddaughter and special pal, Ursula Casey; from West Dover, Mary Mulford, Donald Jr. (Buddy), Michael, Kevin, and Sheila King. Mrs. King was the oldest of four and is survived by her sister Eileen(Quinn) of Queens, NY. She was predeceased by brother Gene and sister Joanie (O’neill).

She was the grandmother of 17 and great-grandmother of nine.

Mrs. King energetically enjoyed life with her family and friends, taking care of her apartment and her husband (especially his hair) even after a stroke left her severely disabled 20 years ago. She was, in her own words “a stickler for details” and she amazed all who knew her with her organizational skills and fierce independence all while her health declined.

Back in the early 1940s while working at Chubb and Sons Insurance Company, her best friend Peggy asked her to write to her brother Donald, who was in the Navy in World War II. Their ensuing courtship and romance was truly one for the ages. The pure friendship and love that they had for one another was very special and it was always a joy to be in their company.

They married in 1946.They raised their family and enjoyed life in the Inwood section of Manhattan with the exception of a few years in the early 1950s when they owned a house in Sayreville, NJ.They were subsequently forced to move back to New York City due to the requirements of the New York Police Department but of course she and Mr. King continued their relationships with friends made in New Jersey.

When their youngest child was in grammar school Mrs. King went back to work, which kept her busy but she thrived on that and was an exemplary employee. She first worked at City College of New York in the admissions office and loved it because she was surrounded by young people. She eventually ended her secretarial career at Fordham University working with the Jesuit order of priests.

Mrs. King was also a very active member of her lovely and lively community and Church of the Good Shepherd where she and Mr. King had many close friends.

She was the daughter, sister and wife of policemen, and while she wrote in her grammar school autograph book that she wanted to be a reporter when she grew up (no doubt, seeing herself in the funny and feisty character of Cary Grant’s ex and soon to be wife again, in “His Gal Friday”) She then considered becoming a policewoman, which was quickly vetoed by her father.

Mrs. King threw wonderful dinner parties, was an avid reader, and loved to travel and meet new people, especially children. There was not a child in her presence that would go unnoticed by her. She was a loyal friend, sister, sister-in-law, proud mom, aunt, grandmother, and great-grandmother. She was lucky enough to have married her best friend and that was evident.

In her earlier days Mrs. King could dance a mean Alley Cat and Lindy. One of her greatest pleasures was dancing with her husband. She was also a wonderful storyteller as well as a great listener.

She enjoyed traveling with Don, especially to Ireland where they both had lots of family.

She loved the vibrancy of New York City, however, in 1997, due to her health, she reluctantly moved to Vermont, yet in true fashion embraced her new life there with Don, Judy, Fred, and Ursula. She loved taking rides throughout the area and marveling at its beauty.

Mrs. King’s annual trips to the Jersey Shore with her large and loving family were the highlight of her year. Her tenacious spirit and love of life will live forever in our hearts. Even through all her physical struggles she started and ended each day with a smile on her face and a twinkle in her eye.

There will be a toast for Mary at Dover Town Hall in East Dover, on Sunday, August 18, promptly at 1 pm, where her friends and family will have an informal celebration of her life followed immediately with lunch.

In lieu of flowers consider a gift to St Jude’s Children’s Hospital in Mrs. King’s name.

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